Making small talk isn’t as easy as it sounds but it isn’t as challenging as it sounds either.
Conversing with strangers can be awkward, stilted, even painful, but there is an art to it, and it can be mastered!
There’s nothing small about small talk. You may think that making small talk is just a way to pass the time or avoid awkwardness but many great friendships and personal or professional relationships have started with a small talk!
Small talk is the first step before big conversations!
It's like in a boxing match, when you meet somebody new you don't just go there with an uppercut, right; you start with a sort of dance with jabs here and there to prepare the match.
Small talk is the small dance before the big match, the big conversation. You don't start a relationship by mentioning your 3 years in therapy or by revealing personal details, no; you start with small talk to warm up the relationship and take the conversation to the next level.
Potential advantages of mastering the art of small talk:
It feels good to share, it can make you happier
It can help you make a good impression
It can develop your knowledge or inspire new ideas
It’s a way to connect, making new friends
Small talk can be good for business
It can lead to lasting personal or professional relationships
Small talk is an investment with no initial cost, no risk and unlimited upside
Potential disadvantages of ‘failing’ the art of small talk:
You can miss friendship opportunities
You can miss job opportunities
It can be bad for your first impression
You can look a bit “rude” or distant
You can miss enjoyable conversation
The first step to master the art of small talk is to dare to try!
Some people seem to be very comfortable when it's time to break the ice and engage conversation; if you are not like them, I have a good news for you: you can improve your skills and find it easier soon!
Initiating conversation with strangers is challenging because of :
Initiating conversation with strangers can be easier by:
Overpassing the fear
Relativizing the challenge
Becoming a good listener
Preparing challenging situations
Learning easy topics to engage the conversation
You will need to practice a lot, trust yourself, learn easy topics to start with and adjust to the person in front of you.
Do you know that the easiest way to do small talk is not by talking?
It is all about your listening and observation skills.
Don't make it about you and focus on the other person, you will forget everything about your stress & fears!
Contact us to start your individual coaching and master the fine art of small talk.